Our Little Family

Our Little Family

Thursday, November 17, 2011

Hurry Up and Wait!

Have you ever been to the airport?  You know how with so much of airline travel there is a lot of hurry up and wait?  Well, it seems that the adoption process is pretty similar.  I've been meeting and talking with others who are at various stages in the adoption process, and it seems the most trying times are the waiting periods.

It is like that now for us.  It feels very similar to the beginning of pregnancy.  You know how when you first find out you are pregnant, you are just itching to get everything ready for baby?  But it is too early to complete the nursery or do your registry list.  I feel that way now.  I am itching to do more!  We have had two fundraising events, and we have one more coming up, but it's the in between time that seems to drag.

I found myself in Walmart looking at all of the little girl toys and clothes and just wanting to buy things for our little one!  It will come though!  For now, our goal is to raise the funding needed for our paperwork, and once that paperwork starts, holy cow will that keep me busy! :-)

It has been good to have periods of waiting though.  God has been revealing my heart to me and teaching me things I didn't think were even a part of the adoption process.  Through all of the hurry up and wait, there is so much peace!  Yes, I am looking forward to the end of this journey when we will have our little girl home with us, but the learning and growing along the way is priceless.  I wouldn't miss one single part of this journey for anything!

Wednesday, November 2, 2011

The 3 Phases of Our Adoption

When you talk about the adoption process and what it looks like, it can seem a little complicated.  So, I am going to try and simplify what the process looks like and where we currently are in it.  There are basically three phases in our adoption process.

Phase 1
Raise $6700 for Home Study, Dossier, and Immigration Fees
Complete Home Study
Complete Dossier paperwork and turn in to the country we are adopting from
Complete Immigration paperwork

Phase 2
Raise $10,000 for Country Fee
You are assigned a child, and upon acceptence of the child you are referred the Country Fee is due.

Phase 3
Raise $5,000 to $10,000 Travel Fees (depending on the time of year and other variables)
Wait to be issued a travel date to go and get our little girl.

This is a super simplified layout of how it will look for us over this next year and a half to two years, but it gives you a basic idea.  We are currently in Phase 1, working on raising the $6700 so we can proceed with our paperwork and Home Study.  We cannot apply for any grants or financial assistance until the Home Study is done, so raising this $6700 is all on us.

While these numbers seem daunting at times, we know that this adoption is something that God has put on our hearts to do.  The money will come!  We don't know from where.  It may come through fundraising, grants, gifts from friends and even gifts from people we have never met before but who want to be a part of a little girl getting her forever family.

This is going to be a year of miracles!  The impossible will become possible!!

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

Our Story

Fourteen years ago this December, it all began.  Two highschool sweethearts tied the knot and the journey began. 

Daniel and I have always had a heart for adoption.  As a little girl, my heart was always moved by the orphan.  I would watch shows like "Anne of Green Gables" and "Annie" and think, "I would love those little girls!"  One of my heros growing up was Amy Carmichael, a single woman who helped many orphans in India.  Even as a small girl, I longed to love and help children who had no one loving them.

When Daniel and I started talking about having a family, we discussed possibly not even having biological children and simply adopting to add to our family.  In the end, I really wanted to experience pregnancy and childbirth at least once - enter Mr. Joseph Chapman.  Our sweet little Joey was born October 7th in 2003.  My pregnancy and delivery were very rough, but oh the love for that little man!!  It was worth it!  Since my pregnancy and delivery had been hard, we had decided that we would add our next child to our family through adoption.

When Joey was two years old, we looked into starting the adoption process.  Through various means, God had put adopting a little girl from China on our hearts, so we pursued that.  However, we found out that we were too young.  I was 27 and Daniel 29, and we were told that both parents needed to be over 30.  By now, Joey was approaching three years old, and we didn't want a huge age gap between him and our next child.  So, we took a leap of faith and trusted God that another pregnancy would work out better then the first - enter Mr. Titus Chapman.  Oh my little chubby man!  God answered our prayers and my second pregnancy and delivery went beautifully!!  Titus was born on August 6th in 2007.  We now had two sweet little boys to love and raise!

Less then a year later, we knew that God was calling our family to move from California where my husband had been born and raised, and I had spent most of my life.  He was leading us to Kansas City.  We took our two small boys ages 4 and 10 months, and we moved 1500 miles from all of our family and friends.  We knew one family in Kansas City, and we thank the Lord for them!  That chapter in our life, after our move, is quite long although it took place in a very short period.  There is too much to say about this time, so I will try to sum it up with this - God used that time to heal us and restore us.  It was hard and many lessons came with tears, but oh the joy of restoration!!  We are freely walking out who God made us to be!

No, I haven't forgotten that this is an adoption story, I promise!  This all played a big part in leading us to this point - the official start of our adoption journey!  Oh the joy that leaps in my heart as I even write those words!!  Finally!  The dream of my heart is about to become a reality!  In October of 2011, we met with an adoption agency and officially started the process to adopt a little girl!  This blog is the story of our journey from the United States to Asia where our little one is waiting for us.  Thank you for joining us along the way!